Marilyn, sending you big hugs. It is always very painful and amazing the hole they leave.
Lois, a couple of years ago on Threadbias I was in the 'complete your ufos' group and if you managed one or two finishes in the three month time period the other six people in you gang sent you a fq, and likewise you sent them one. We didn't have any problems at all posting overseas, and it was mostly americans with myself and a german lady involved. Postage from USA varied from just over $2:50 - $4:99 (I think)'.
Right I'm off stash diving to put together some bundles (the more I think about it - dangerous I know - the more I think it should be a small selection up to the quantity of a fq)