I too love that saying along with my Grandmother's saying "Behind every successful man is a woman saying without me he couldn't even find his underwear." Gotta love Gramma
Rachel

I have always been interested in other cultures and traditions in other parts of the world. Because American women have become so liberated, we often believe that women in other cultures are not.
One factor that I always keep in mind is the role of religion in a culture. The religion will shape the traditions and beliefs of the gender roles. As we become a global society, the traditional roles will be constantly challenged. With inter-religious and inter-racial marriages becoming more and more common, the traditional roles (for men and women) will be in flux for several generations.
Not all change is good. Traditions help us to connect with our culture; it binds a group of people together. With the globalization of cultures, we will loose some cultures but perhaps will create new ones.
Since this is Independence Day weekend, I can say proudly I can be free to choose my role. But I have to remember, coming to this moment in time was a struggle for those women who came before me. Many thanks to the great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and mothers who fought for the right to vote, increased pay, the ability to have their own credit and the freedom to apply for any job.

One of my most loved phrases: Well behaved women rarely make history!!

FW

I cannot speak for any Chinese culture but my understanding is that the 1 baby rule is the main reason for the unwanted girl problem. Sons are of value because they provide lifetime labor and prestige for the family while girls go off to the husband's family. So you see, if the couple have one daughter, she will go off the serve the husband's family and her parents will have no one to help them and care for them in their old age.

We lived in Singapore with a majority Chinese population but with a culture very different, very complex, and very much its own. In my limited, one year experience, the wealthy Singaporean wife was highly respected and well cared for.

Anyway, DH's "yes, dear" is tinged with feigned sincerity and could never be mistaken for subservience.

By the way I don't truely believe that for a chinese husband to say yes to his wife is really an insult. I do believe the reason that there is so many female babies in thier orphanages is because of the 1 baby rule. If these people could have more then 1 they would keep thier girls but they preffer the boys for the namesakes.
I could be wrong though Rachel

I don't know too much about chinese culture but I think that it is an insult to say yes to the wife. Doesn't the wife have to walk so far behind the husband. Aren't women like second class or something isn't that why there are so many female children in the orphanages there. I could be wrong but I do know that female children are usually unwanted. And YES my impulse filter and control button is still missing. Yes this is still causing problems. The good news is though I can't remember half the time why I have angered people so I don't care that they are angry. Which angers them even more. At the golf corse again today. Husbands boss was drinking at 7:30 AM :shock:

I guess I started this but it's all in good fun. I told DH about our forum discussions and he had a good laugh. He checked my bag for scissors . He calls his endearing behaviors "foibles: harmless peculiarities in a person's character." He's quite proud of them. He says he doesn't need a forum to complain about me because I'm perfect . He also says that the forums he frequents give plenty of opportunities to complain about DWs.

He has given and still gives the following advice to all his male aquaintances. "Learn how to say, 'Yes, dear' with sincerity and accept blame graciously." Then he makes them practice and critiques their level of sincerity. He even did this at a dinner party to the VP of a very large telco. When we get to a new country the first phrases he learns are how to order a beer and "Yes, dear." He learned Italian, French, German, Spanish, Polish but failed Chinese

So Rachel, working on that impulse talking, huh? Just kidding.
My DH does the laundry. Usually very well. His only problem is that sometimes he doesn't separate new clothes. I wash them alone so the dye doesn't get on the other clothes.
I'm trying to get him to wash my kitchen floor. I can't do it. My injury won't let me. I've mentioned it several times but he hasn't picked up on it. Oh well.
And he doesn't play golf. Right now, he has NO hobbies but is on the verge of becoming a quilter. Seriously. We have one of my sewing machines getting cleaned up for him to use. Then I'll have to worry about him using my stash!!!
Maureen, our DHs don't need a forum to complain about us because we're perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
eileenkny

LOL Yep it is the golf course my Hubby works there by the way
They hate it when I go in and sit at the bar and wait for him to come in for lunch. Especially since the accident because I deffend the women and let them know what butt heads they are AND believe me these guy are a really a lot more then butt heads. They are the WHOLE BUTTS !!! Once the one told me "you do realize I AM your husbands boss?" To which I replied " YOU DO REALIZE YOU ARE A EGOTISICAL JERK and I DON'T CARE HE IS ON THE BOOKS AND HE COULD USE A VACATION. SO GO AHEAD AND FIRE HIM BECAUSE UNEMPLOYMENT SURE DOES SOUND GOOD. HE HASN'T HAD A DAY OFF IN 3 WEEKS" That rendered him speechless.

maureent wrote:
I think it's called the golf course!

JoAnne

Rachel, ROFLOL!!! Too funny! My DH thinks that I've finally lost my mind!

I hope there is a forum site somewhere where your husbands can all complain about you!

Happy don't be sorry this is why this section is called pet peeves It is ok to vent here. I have been carrying around a credit card by the way that has been canceled for over 4 months I only use it for emergencies and on line purchases. So it has never really been used. My husband's has but not mine. Well he canceled them so I wouldn't be tempted. So if I were you I would make sure while you were at the shop tomarrow you shop and make sure your husbands gift to you was a nice one. Because tomarrow when I shop my husbands gift to me will be a nice one too. He just doesn't know it yet . I found his secret stash and I think I will finish getting the other part of the 2 quilts I am working on.
Rachel
Ps I may calm down after I sleep and he explains but doubtful

I opened my mouth again I was at work and DH called I have not seen him for almost 2 weeks he and my son is doing there active duty training any way he called and ask what I was doing tomorrow I said in the moring I was going to the quilt shop and he said it was the 4th I said they where open my son need to go and get a gift for he girl friend and DH said he should go do that and maybe I would be done I said I am sick and tired of the way he talks about that and what I like to do he said ok and cut it short I said I will not tell him again when I go there Just needed to vent sorry

I've been getting such a chuckle out of these confessions about our DH's Doesn't it do your heart good to know we're all in the same boat? Sheesh, if mine was the only one.......
We have a saying in our house "It's with the butter". After the hundreth time of DH asking where something is (used to regularly be the butter), and I would reach over and pick up the butter which is right in front of his nose, say "You mean this?" Now anything he inquires about gets a "It's with the butter" reply. And we DO laugh about such things. I even found a greeting card once...hubby at frige with door open.....the ONLY thing in the frige is butter...MANY cubes, all over the place....and he's saying "Honey, where's the butter?"
He's great about pretreating his shirts, though - if he sees the spot. We have the Tide To Go sticks in both cars, my purse, his desk at work, suitcase. Sure helps if you get it right away.
Jan in Spokane