Wow, Heather! You do come up with some challenges! Good for you for trying new things, though! I have never sewn flannel to cotton fabric. And, have never sewn anything but a square (dozens of squares) to each other. No triangles. But, I agree with everyone that you need to wash the flannel a couple of times, and dry (on hot) for max shrinkage. I would definitely wash the cotton fabric, too. And, as Lotti said, find a batting that will shrink, and once the finished quilt is washed, you will get that "crinkly" look. As for the triangle cuts, highly starch the bias line of the flannel! Before cutting! And, as Ritzy said, be sure to allow for a generous seam. (The flannel quilts that I have made usually get highly quilted, so the seams are quite secure.) I would do a test piece, with the flannel and the cotton, and send it through the wash a few times. Just Fray Check the edges of the flannel. This way you can see if the flannel plays well with the cotton, through all of the washings that the quilt will encounter.
Dawn
In beautiful Northwest Montana