Thanks, Michelle.
I tried again today after giving it a rest for a few days, the pillow did help. I don't think that gluing the turned edges under first will work, the glue made it harder to push the needle through the edge. It did help with my left hand though, the pinky and ring finger didn't get as stiff. I think I'm going to do my new project by machine applique, the way Margo demonstrated for the BOM and continue to do the current project by hand, using all the tips you all have given.
Thanks again!
Vicki