Dear Sewmea,
while dealing with my mom's decline (she's 94 and still trying to quilt!) I found sewing the BOM both a relief and overwhelming. I had to set it aside for 2 months as it was just too much- all those 2" sq in sq! More often I chose to work on small projects so I could at least be sewing and getting something done. I just wish I had time now to set up some good appliqué projects for hand sewing so I have something to do during the 5-hour ER visits! Things are settling done a bit (can't say enough about the hospice staff and their support of me and my mom) so I took some time for myself to finish Raja. Best advice I got was to jettison those things that don't have to be done right now (like your BOM- it will still be there in 2017) and focus on the here and now, doing little things to take care of myself. Ending the BOM in December is hard, too, with all the holiday obligations. We need a 10-month BOM!
Take care, Peg