Personally speaking I would have hot washed the fabrics individually first, on the setting that the finished quilt will be washed at, but it is a bit late for that now
. By the way is your flannel a wool flannel or cotton flannel? most 'quilting flannels' that I have come across recently, seem to be cotton, but I
know that there are woollen flannels out there, & this could make a difference as to it's shrinkage.
Margo's suggestion of a trial sample is probably your best option if you are really concerned. Or you could just go for the 'Chuck it and Duck' school of hopefullness
PS Liking the new photo!