Hi Martha -
They usually don't include quilting suggestions with the BOM pattern, but maybe Janet did. Either way, don't stress about that part. In the end, this quilt will be your masterpiece. It's your first quilt, so it will definitely be your best so far. With every quilt, I just try to make the best so far. I don't always succeed, but I love them all. They have a little of my heart in them.
When it comes to the quilting, what I like to say is the most important role of the quilting is to hold the layers together. Ultimately, if you stitch enough to hold your layers securely and none of the stitches are toe-catchers (a stitch so long that your toe catches in it as you use the quilt), then you have succeeded. Anything beyond that is gravy and will get better with each quilt. I believe the most important tip to being able to quilt is -- relax. No matter what your skill level, your stitching will be better when you are relaxed than when you are tense. If you feel yourself getting tense, take a couple of deep breathes and find your happy spot. If you can't find your happy spot, step away for a little while. This is a hobby so you should enjoy every minute of it.
Also, as you are quilting, don't get uptight about little mistakes. While quilting, your nose is just inches from the quilt and you will see every minute mistake that you make. But nobody else will ever put their nose that close to your quilt. And mistakes won't be noticeable once there is a lot of stitching on the quilt. A quilter once told me that the more quilting you put on the quilt, the less you will be able to see the mistakes, and I've found that to be true. I make a lot of mistakes, but I will only pick out stitches if the mistake is huge (as some say, able to be seen when riding by on a galloping horse) or if there are tension problems that will cause the stitching to come out later. As Leah Day says, the time spent picking out stitches only gets you better at picking out stitches. It doesn't get you better at quilting.
To learn quilting, take advantage of all of the information available to you. There are a lot of quilting videos on you-tube. There are some wonderful classes at craftsy.com. See if your local quilt shop offers classes. Try everything on practice pieces to see what works for you. Everyone is different, so what works for one quilter will not necessarily work for another. It's a lifetime exploration for you to enjoy...